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Oral Sex: Fellatio Right – let’s explode a myth: blow jobs do not involve blowing… unless from a distance. Please don’t try and blow down his penis, it’s not a good thing to do.

OK? Now then, the penis is almost as sensitive as the inside of the vagina and so tugging hard on the foreskin or biting (unless it’s requested) is not a good idea. Also, get to know what you’re doing: bobbing your head around just for the sake of it will achieve very little.

Finally, decide in advance whether you are going to spit, swallow, or allow your partner to ejaculate over you – the choice is yours. Of course, most men will prefer it if you swallow but don’t worry if you don’t fancy that, it’s entirely up to you – let him know what you’re going to do.

To give the best fellatio he’s ever had, do as follows…

Right, first things first: begin with lots of foreplay. Try something like a massage, if you have long hair use it to tease him. When you’re ready to move south, remember to kiss, lick and caress him all the way down to his toes. Take your time; tease him as you pass his penis and genitals on the way down and on the way back up. Make sure he is fully erect before your mouth goes anywhere near his penis.

Next, try masturbating him – keep one hand at the bottom of his shaft (the base of the penis) and use your other hand to arouse other parts of his body such as his anus and perineum, his testicles and his nipples.

When you’re ready to move on to oral sex, the basic technique you should adopt is to masturbate the penis by sliding your hand up and down the penis, closing it slightly when you reach the top and opening it slightly as you move back down. All the while keep his penis moving in and out of your mouth (lips covering teeth) which should be applying a firm but comfortable pressure. If he’s uncircumcised, do not tug or yank his foreskin just make sure it slides up and over the penile head.

When you’ve got the hang of the basic technique, take a good firm grip and accentuate your tongue movements. Lick his penis as if it were a lollypop, using long slow movements over the head and up the sides. Cover your teeth with your lips and give him a couple of ‘lip pinches’ (biting without using your teeth). Use lots of saliva, the more lubricated the penis, the better it feels. Finally, take his penis into your mouth and swirl your tongue around the head.

By keeping one hand on the shaft of his penis, you prevent him from gagging you and you control how deeply you take it into you mouth. Deep throating is where you take the whole penis into your mouth rather than keeping a hand or two on it. This can be very difficult and uncomfortable, resulting in gagging – in general, only the very experienced can do this and the head of the penis is the most sensitive part anyway so that’s the most important bit.

Tease your partner by changing the speed, get him really aroused by moving faster and sucking harder and then slow down so that he does not reach orgasm. Stop altogether and concentrate all of your attention on one of the areas that you had been arousing with your other hand, then, go back to the penis and tease him some more. Take him to the very brink of orgasm (not easy) and then slow him down. Enjoy it (he will), you are in complete control.

Atmosphere It is argued by many that ambience plays just as big a part in a love making experience as any other aspect of sex and yet it is often completely overlooked.

The key to creating the right atmosphere is to think about the five senses and try to create an atmosphere that appeals to all of them. Now, obviously if you just fancy a ‘quickie’ in the back of a Ford Cortina then you’re unlikely to care about stimulating the senses but if you do care about the atmosphere in which you’re having sex then read on for some great ideas…

Beginning with touch, it is important to make sure that the environment in which you are making love is as aesthetically pleasing as possible. Think about the basics such as bed linen and then use your imagination a little and explore the use of sex toys or touchy-feely stuff like feathers. Also, remember that food such as whipped cream or chocolate sauce can be a very tasty addition to the experience. Finally, if your partner is willing and their pain threshold is pretty high, then take their senses to the extreme using ice or hot candle wax (be very careful).

To appeal to your partner’s sense of smell, try burning some scented candles. Just make sure that you don’t go overboard and stink the place out or burn it down; you don’t want the flames of passion to be interrupted by a fireman’s hose. If candles aren’t your thing then try flowers instead; they’re more subtle but they will help make any room smell nice. Finally, don’t forget to make sure that you are smelling your best – try sharing a shower with your partner before making love or just keep it simple and use some deodorant.

Now then, taste – the hardest of the five senses to affect when it comes to making love but while we’re on the subject did you know that you can actually change the taste of semen? Well, you can; the trick is to change what you eat and drink before making love. As a general rule, bland foods like pasta and potatoes improve the taste of sperm whereas curry, beer and coffee produce the worst taste. Obviously taste needn’t just be about bodily fluids; you can also introduce food and drink into a lovemaking experience. It’s unlikely that a cheese and pickle sandwich will do much to turn your partner on but edible underwear or chocolate flavoured body paint may do the trick.

The one sense that everyone is well aware of is sight. Whether it be the sexy underwear, candle light or body image, everyone is very aware of the visual aspect of sex. But, how many of you consider changing the actual place in which you have sex? Well, for a great psychological kick, try changing your location. Try a ‘69er’ in the car, ‘doggy style’ on your way home from a night out or try the ‘wheelbarrow’ in the garden (just be careful to avoid the roses!). Alternatively, give the idea some thought and you’ll soon realise that there’s a world of opportunity outside your bedroom.

The final sense is that of hearing and the obvious way to appeal to this sense is through music. Whether it be the ‘walrus of soul’ Mr Barry White or the artist formerly known as Prince, almost everyone has a favourite artist that will ‘get them in the mood’. The key is to find out what does it for your partner. When your pretty sure you’ve made the right choice (avoid hard house and heavy metal) put the CD, tape or whatever on loop (you don’t want to stop mid session to restart the music). If you don’t like music then try talking ‘dirty’ instead or perhaps even use video pornography if that works for you.

Fingering is the grand art of masturbating your woman’s vagina with your own fingers. See our Female Anatomy guide for a detailed diagram of the female genitals. It involves much more than just sticking them inside her and moving them around.

The most important thing you can have when going into something new is knowledge. It’s also very, very important to have a partner who can talk to you about this and give you instruction during the act and afterwards. This way, you can both learn more about each other’s intimate perks, secrets, and desires. You’ll also find that if you make her happy, you’ll be happier as well. It should be noted that the guide that follows is one example of guidelines. These specific techniques aren’t necessarily going to work for all women. You’ll honestly need to consult with your partner on what works and what doesn’t, but these will be some starting tips. Just remember to keep the communication channels open, and don’t be afraid to add a little variety.

First, when rubbing her clit, up-and-down motions usually work better than side-to-side or circular. Sure, you can use the latter two to vary it every now and then, but, on the whole (whether fingering or using your tongue), up and down on the clitoris usually works best.

When actually using a finger or two inside of her (I’d suggest one for tighter girls–you CAN fit two, usually, but you lose a lot of maneuverability, and she’ll be sore afterward), one of the better motions I’ve found is to push your finger all the way in, then bend it slightly when pulling it out, so it scrapes against the top of her insides. Not only does this feel really good, but it gives you a chance at hitting the G-spot. If you do hit it, you should be able to tell by your partner’s reaction. And, trust me, you need to find the G-spot sooner or later (sooner the better), and use it to your full advantage. That’s one of the best places to start consistently rubbing when she’s getting close to orgasm.

That’s another thing- try to be consistent. You can vary your angle and fingering style sometimes during the session, but don’t change every three seconds. And when she gets close to orgasm, DON’T change unless she tells you to. Get a little rougher and pump your finger a little further into her, great. Go faster, wonderful. But DON’T decide “Hey, maybe if I completely change my angle and rotate my finger THIS way” when she’s near the edge- every time you switch, it sort of knocks her orgasm back a bit, and that can be really frustrating for her. And most importantly, when she’s getting closer to orgasm, if she says for you to do something, DO IT. Harder, faster, rougher, whatever- she knows what she needs, and it’ll help her orgasm along a lot if you just listen to her and do what she says. This is for HER, after all.

Also, pay attention to more than her genital area. I know it takes a lot of concentration to finger a girl, especially when you’re new at it, and so you sort of forget to do anything else, but it makes the girl feel better and increases her general body sensitivity if you nip at her thighs, rub her stomach or breast with your free hand, do SOMETHING. Mostly, it helps her feel like something more than just genitals to you, and that means a lot to her general pleasure. You may even want to stop every now and then (provided she isn’t close to orgasm because that would be just mean) to just hug and kiss her for a minute or two. It would give you both a break and would preserve the intimacy of it all.

You can get a lot of pointers if you ask her to touch herself while you watch, and then pattern your motions after her. In fact, the first few times, you may want to ask her to finger herself or rub her clitoris herself, so that you can take care of just one of those aspects and learn what feels good while watching what she does on herself that feels good in the other area.

Talk to her during the act. Tell her that she’s pretty, ask her if what you’re doing feels good, tell her you want her and that you like doing this, that sort of thing. That helps keep the intimacy going, making her feel like a person and not just a vagina, and also reassures her that you aren’t bored. Many women are sort of paranoid that the guy isn’t having any fun at all- make sure she knows that you are. Even after you are done, fully clothed, and alone, make sure to remind her just how much you enjoyed doing that for her.

Especially right after she has reached orgasm, don’t pull your finger out suddenly. Unless it’s part of hard, fast thrusts (and usually even then), your finger should stay in or come out very gradually. Ripping it out all at once can be very uncomfortable or painful for a girl. Sliding it very slowly can even serve to tease, and make sure you look her in the eyes and grin when you do this. She should love it.

Mostly, it depends on communication with your partner about her needs and wants. Some girls like it rougher or faster than others. Some like more vaginal stimulation, others want just clitoral. It boils down to reading your partner’s reaction and asking her to help teach you what she wants. Be willing and ready to learn, and you’ll do fine.