Oral Sex: Cunnilingus There are probably more alternatives to the word cunnilingus than any other in the English language – we won’t go into them here, but you’ll probably know one or two.
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On the whole, more ladies want to receive this than their partners want to provide it. However, it’s worth learning how to do it and getting to enjoy it as she likes this, she likes this very much. Before you start though, do bear in mind the following: gentlemen – stubble is bad, everyone – teeth are worse and a reluctant diner is unlikely to have the favour returned.
Secondly, think about your technique: too rough and she’ll be writhing around alright, but in agony rather than pleasure; too gentle and all you efforts will come to nothing. Once you’ve perfected your technique – you’ll know – don’t change it too often and, above all, don’t stop at the crucial moment unless you want to spend the night on the couch. Finally, do make sure the genitals are clean.
OK – now try and make sure there is enough light so you can see what you’re doing. This might be a problem if she’s a little shy, but do try and work round this. Obviously don’t start erecting floodlights at the end of the bed and put away the pit helmet, just try burning a few candles or dimming the lights rather than turning them off.
Next, let your partner decide which position she wishes to adopt as she’ll want to be relaxed and comfortable (relaxed and comfortable = better chance of orgasm). She may want to lie back while you’re at the foot of the bed or even act out a slave fantasy by standing up.
You can now begin by slowly stroking and kissing her body. Spend lots of time; work your way around her body then, when she’s been teased enough, start gently stroking her genitals.
Leave her underwear on and stroke through the fabric – when she becomes moist whip ‘em off. Now is a good time to ask her how she likes it: slow or fast; gentle or hard. When you’ve been given your orders, take note and carry them out to the letter, make sure your tongue is nice and soft – don’t point or tense it.
Start with indirect stimulation: wiggling your tongue around and over the clitoris. Then, move into longer, wet, gentle strokes with your tongue keeping a slow but steady rhythm. Make sure you’re not being too rough and make sure she knows how much you’re enjoying it (even if you’re not).
Keep a good steady rhythm up for maybe ten to fifteen minutes and if you’ve covered all the right areas (don’t just focus on the clitoris) your partner should be close to orgasm. You’ll know when this is because her body will tense and she’ll probably be shouting words of encouragement at the top of her voice! Before she orgasms, try popping your finger into her vagina just to heighten the pleasure – she’ll let you know if she doesn’t like it.
Finally, don’t stop until she tells you to or pushes you away – you’ll not be popular if you do.
